Lengthy Hair And Older Ladies
Forty-seven-year-outdated TGB reader, Peggy Race, emailed just lately asking about outdated ladies and lengthy hair.
Peggy’s proper that generally, the recommendation for girls older than (even) 35 is to cut their hair short, and lengthy hair, particularly long grey hair is cause for remark, often destructive. The explanations given rely on the supply:
1. Women’s magazines: Short hair is extra manageable.
2. Salon homeowners: Lengthy hair makes girls past 35 look older than they are.
3. Bigots: Previous women look silly trying to appear younger.
None of these causes is legitimate. Brief hair takes quite a bit of work beginning with frequent visits to the hair cutter. Until you might be blessed with the sort of hair you’ll be able to run your fingers via and look nice, retaining short hair neat can involve curlers or straighteners or curling irons and mousse or gels or wig cover no matter else keeps it in place.
My hair has grown almost all the way down to my waist now. I trim off the dead ends from time to time, wash it each different day, let it air dry – it takes solely an hour – and brush it. How easy is that. I pull it again in a clip for a low pony tail or pin it up in a bun. Either approach takes only a few minutes. Marian Van Eyk McCain of elderwomanblog (pictured), wears her lengthy, grey hair in a single braid.
It is typical wisdom that lengthy hair on older girls calls consideration to wrinkles and sags and makes them look older. Older than what This purpose presupposes that trying one’s age is a bad thing which I’ve spent practically six years arguing against on this weblog. Plus, salon owners have a vested curiosity briefly hair to maintain ladies coming back for a cut every few weeks, so do not hearken to them.
As to the final reason, except a 50-plus lady is strolling around in a miniskirt, naked midriff and an excessive amount of makeup with her lengthy, gray hair, I do not understand the objection. And even if she does wear all these issues, who am I – or you – to judge her.
Practically forty years in the past whereas strolling across West 57th Road in New York Metropolis, I noticed a woman in entrance of me with lengthy, straight hair hanging almost to her waist. No large deal; many ladies wore lengthy hair then, but not grey hair, as this lady had.
I would had a buddy who had gone utterly gray in our mid-20s, so I used to be curious to know the way outdated this lady was. I sped up and reached her at the subsequent corner. Hoping for subtlety as we waited for the sunshine, I took a peek at her face. She was not, like my buddy, prematurely gray. She was, I was guessing, in her mid- to late fifties and she seemed fabulous. In fact, she was additionally tall, slender, had cheekbones and a clean jawline, 4 issues nature neglected of my anatomy.
Even so, I determined then and there that when i bought old, I would wear my gray hair lengthy. A part of the reason for the decision, even at age 35 or so, was that I disliked each second and resented every greenback I spent at the hair shop. I assumed it was essential then for – well, what did I think I’m not sure now; it most likely had something to do with men.
Lengthy hair is problematic in outdated age whether it is thinning. Mine is and I’m still vain enough to not wish to show off my balding spots. That is the place the bun comes in; it covers the skinny area on my crown fairly properly.
Given the prevalence of age discrimination in the office, it is in all probability a bad thought, if you’re not retired, to stop coloring your hair and wear it lengthy or in an old-fashioned bun – although prior to now few years, young professional girls have more and more worn buns. But I’m pretty certain the identical model in an older lady could be seen as “letting herself go.”
If, however, employment is not a priority and it pleases you to have lengthy hair, gray or not, I say go for it, Peggy. The people who are who’re pressuring you to cut it are out wig cover of line.